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Book One · Legacy Parenting Series

The Gift That Was Never Mine

a story about the open hand

by Rayda Edding

Bismillah ir-Rahman ir-Raheem.

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ

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Chapter 1

Mama's Secret Trick

Mama's open hand
Mama's open hand

In a small house full of noise and love lived a girl named Aisha, who had quick feet, a loud laugh, and one small problem.

Aisha did not like to share. Not her red truck. Not her sparkly pencils. Especially not her favorite things.

One morning in the kitchen, Mama held up her fist. Tight. Closed. Like a little stone.

"Aisha," she said, "what can go into a hand like this?"

Aisha looked. "Nothing."

"And what can come out of it?"

"…Nothing."

"That's right." Mama leaned close, and her eyes twinkled. "A closed fist keeps everything — and receives nothing. It is full… and it is starving."

Then, slowly, finger by finger, Mama opened her hand until her palm lay flat and bare, like a little dish held up to the sky.

"But this hand," she whispered, "can give. And this hand can receive. When you open your hand to give, you are not emptying it, habibti. You are making space — so Allah can fill it with more."

Aisha stared at Mama's open palm.

She did not believe it yet.

But the story is only beginning.

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Chapter 2

The Goodie Bags of Ramadan

Handing a goodie bag at the masjid
Handing a goodie bag at the masjid

When Ramadan came, the kitchen table turned into a workshop.

Dates and sweets. Little toys. Notes written in wobbly crayon: Eid Mubarak! From Aisha.

Aisha and her brothers stuffed goodie bags until their fingers were sticky, arguing sweetly over whose bag was the most beautiful.

Then came the strange part.

"Now," said Mama, "we give them all away."

All of them? Even the bag with the best sweets?

All of them.

At the masjid, Aisha held out a goodie bag to an old auntie she had never met. The auntie's whole face lit up like a lamp. "May Allah bless you, little one!"

And something funny happened inside Aisha's chest. A warm, fizzy, glowing feeling — bigger than the feeling of getting a treat.

She looked down at her empty hand.

It didn't feel empty at all.

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Chapter 3

The Pep Talk by the Front Door

Guarding the toy box by the door
Guarding the toy box by the door

Learning to open your hand is not easy. Some days it is a battle.

One evening, guests were coming — guests with children. Children who would touch Aisha's toys.

Aisha stood guard by the toy box like a soldier at a gate.

Mama gathered the children by the front door for a pep talk. "Tonight," she said, "we are the hosts. Our guests' happiness is our honor. We will share our toys happily. Not with grumpy faces. Not with tight little grips." She held up the closed fist. Then she opened it. "With this hand."

Did Aisha share perfectly that night?

Truly… no. She hid her red truck under her pillow.

But when her little guest cried because there was nothing fun to play with, Aisha felt that tight, closed-fist feeling in her chest — and she did not like it one bit.

So she marched to her room, pulled out the truck, and put it into the little boy's hands.

His smile was better than the truck.

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Chapter 4

Soup for Strangers

A warm bowl for a stranger
A warm bowl for a stranger

As Aisha grew, the giving grew too.

One cold evening, Mama took the children to a soup kitchen. They chopped (carefully). They stirred (with help). They packed warm meals into boxes with their own hands.

Then they walked out into the streets, and Aisha placed a warm meal into the hands of a man sitting on the cold pavement.

"Thank you," he said softly. "May God bless you."

He had kind eyes. He had a story. He was a person — not a stranger anymore.

Aisha was very quiet on the way home.

Those are the nights, Mama says, when a lesson goes all the way down into the heart.

And when Aisha whispered, "Mama… if we keep giving everything away, won't we have less?" — Mama smiled, because the Prophet ﷺ answered that question long, long ago:

Hadith

مَا نَقَصَتْ صَدَقَةٌ مِنْ مَالٍ

Charity does not decrease wealth.

— Sahih Muslim

"Not sometimes," said Mama. "Not usually. It never does. The open hand is never the poorer hand. Wait and see."

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Chapter 5

The Best Gift in the Whole Store

The paint set with twenty-four colors
The paint set with twenty-four colors

Then came the year of the greatest test of all.

Before Eid, Mama gave each child some money and said the most delicious words a child can hear:

"Go and choose the very best gift you can find… for yourself."

Aisha could not believe her ears.

She roamed the aisles like a treasure hunter. She compared. She wondered. She held things up to the light. And at last she found it — a paint set with twenty-four colors, gold and silver too — the most beautiful thing she had ever seen.

Her gift. Her treasure.

"Now," said Mama, "wrap it as beautifully as you can. We open the gifts on Eid morning."

So Aisha wrapped her treasure in shiny paper and ribbon, and every day she looked at it, and the waiting made the wanting sweeter and sweeter.

Eid morning came. New clothes. Sweet breakfast. And there sat the gifts, shining like little moons.

The children gathered around, bursting.

And that is when Mama said it.

"Now — think of someone special. Someone you love. Because this gift, the best gift, the one you chose for yourself… is the one you are going to give away."

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Chapter 6

The Open Fist

The Eid gift given away
The Eid gift given away

The room went still.

Aisha looked at her beautiful package. Her fingers curled around it — tight, tight, like a closed fist.

Mine, said a small voice inside her.

But then she remembered.

The auntie's face, lighting up like a lamp. The little boy hugging her red truck. The man on the pavement with kind eyes. The warm, fizzy glow that only comes from giving.

And she remembered Mama's hand in the kitchen, opening finger by finger.

Aisha thought of her cousin Zaynab, who loved to draw but had only three broken crayons.

And slowly… slowly… Aisha's fingers opened.

That afternoon, she placed the shining package — the paint set, the twenty-four colors, the gold and silver, the very best thing — into Zaynab's hands.

Zaynab gasped. Zaynab squealed. Zaynab hugged her so hard they both fell over laughing.

And Aisha's heart felt so full, so light, so rich — she finally understood.

The gift was never for keeping.

The gift was for giving.

For this is what the Prophet ﷺ taught us:

Hadith

لَا يُؤْمِنُ أَحَدُكُمْ حَتَّىٰ يُحِبَّ لِأَخِيهِ مَا يُحِبُّ لِنَفْسِهِ

None of you truly believes until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.

— Sahih al-Bukhari; Sahih Muslim

Not the toy you are tired of. Not the one you outgrew.

The best one. The one you love.

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Chapter 7

The Seven Doors

Seven doors, two open hands
Seven doors, two open hands

That night, Aisha asked, "Mama, what if one day I have no money and no gifts? How will I give then?"

Mama laughed her warm laugh. "Oh, habibti. Money is only one door — and giving has seven."

"You can give your time — helping before anyone asks.
Your listening — eyes on their eyes, all the way.
Your teaching — showing someone what you know.
Your kind word for a friend — spoken to others.
Your things — lending without keeping score.
Your sweet words — thank you, well done, I love you — said out loud.
And your du'as — quiet prayers for people who will never even know."

Aisha counted on her fingers. "That means…"

"Yes." Mama smiled. "A child with empty pockets can walk through six of those doors before breakfast."

Aisha looked down at her own two hands, lying open in her lap like little dishes held up to the sky.

Ready to give. Ready to receive. Open.

A du'a to close

Allahumma ij'al aydiyana al-ayadi al-'ulya.

O Allah, make our hands the upper, giving hands. O Allah, make us love for others what we love for ourselves. O Allah, fill every open hand in our home.

Ameen.

For little hands to try

  1. 1

    Play the Open Fist game. Make a tight fist. What can go in? What can come out? Now open it, finger by finger.

  2. 2

    Pack one goodie bag this week — and be the one who hands it over.

  3. 3

    Before guests come, practice the pep talk: "Our guests' happiness is our honor!"

  4. 4

    Try the Eid gift. Choose the best gift for yourself… then give it to someone you love. Watch what happens to your heart.

With love,

Rayda Edding

Mother of Six, Grandmother of Seven · Writing the lessons I lived.